In 1999, someone said "Marriage is not but a piece of paper". I was astonished. (eh, I was naive.) In 2000, the same someone quoted Madonna, "Men are the desserts, not the main dishes, don't value them as the supper." (I am not sure what is the exact sentence... I can't find related info on google.) That was something new to me, but I was amused by the concept.
This someone is Iris Chang. I use Iriss as my nickname in the virtual world since then, but until now I feel I agree with her comments.
The value of a marriage is over praised. I know a lot of happily-ever-after couples, but there are more miserable ones. And it is not the marriage makes the happy couple happy, but usually it is the marriage makes the miserable ones miserable. Marriage is a tomb.
The importance of men seems to be over emphasized. Honestly, I don't see a reason that every woman has to find her Mr. right except the heterosexual nature. And I don't understand why a lot of women simply surrender to the desire of companion at the cost of letting Mr. wrong torture their lives. I'd rather be drowned in loneliness instead of regrets.
Marriage is a tomb, but it shouldn't be a life long sentence. Death do people apart, so can a lot of other things. On second thought(s), how much would you pay for a marriage which is more "flexible", i.e., unstable?
I guess I am always unconsciously hoping for a perfect marriage like my parents'. Maybe I should be for a system of graceful degradation.
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Fault-tolerance or graceful degradation is the property that enables a system (often computer-based) to continue operating properly in the event of the failure of (or one or more faults within) some of its components.
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